Well, well, well. Kid_1’s birthday party was today (4 years old). It was indeed interesting to watch things unfold with my MIL, whom I hadn’t seen or spoken to in over a month, due to an argument that we had (that is another post entirely).
Here are some things I noticed:
- When she arrived – somewhat early, to give Kid_1 his present before the other guests arrived – I was ready to be pretty friendly (chatty). I complimented her choice of gift and mentioned a few things about Kid_2, whom she hadn’t seen for a long time. I noticed right away that she was polite to me but didn’t really engage with me. Nothing I said seemed to be very important to her (not that she would show, anyway).
- She never really said anything nice about anything — the birthday cake, the decorations, the photo collage I had made of Kid_1’s first four years, or even our choice of gift for Kid_1 (a child-sized guitar).
- During a conversation with my parents (who she has openly been rude to in the past), she pulled her classic “no one has any valid opinions, feelings, or experiences besides me” trick. The exchange became pretty heated and at one point she said, “Let’s see, what is that N word, I can’t remember what it is.” Meaning, “I want to call you [my dad] a n_____ but I don’t quite have the guts to say it out loud.” Hubby and I can’t figure out what she was trying to say. The only word I can come up with is Narcissist. Dear reader, do you have any ideas?
Anyway, the birthday party went well overall. Kid_1 had a great time. More on this later!